Birthdays and celebrations provide wonderful opportunities to bring our family together and share love. However, these occasions can sometimes become stressful, particularly when two family members don’t have the best relationship. Sandra, a Bright Side reader, has sought our advice as her husband requested her daughter to skip his birthday party since his own daughter was planning to attend. Here is Sandra’s letter. Sandra, thank you for reaching out, and we value the trust you’ve placed in us for advice. Here are some tips that we believe will be beneficial for you. Open a calm dialogue with Adam. Initiate an empathetic and calm conversation with Adam. Express that you overheard his discussion with Katie and share your feelings using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For instance, say, “I overheard your conversation with Katie, and I felt hurt and upset because…”